Twitter user talks about how it feels when a loved one gets raped

The incident had a devastating effect on the person he loved and wrecked the relationship.

Rape and sexual assault are extremely painful occurrence in a person’s life, and the ordeal which someone goes through in the aftermath of rape can be even more devastating.

But along with the person who is assaulted, their loved ones are also the ones who go through hell with the society’s approach towards rape survivors and a long battle for justice.

While politicians make irresponsible comments about rape and some people feel that a celebrity joking about the same is not a big deal, it is a harsh reality of life for rape survivors and those close to them.

This dude right here is evil. His act of violence in '98 impacted my life & someone that I loved. https://t.co/KgQLEVo6Ia

— Angry Man (@AngryBlkManDC) August 16, 2016

A Twitter user called Angry Man chose to come out and talk about how it feels when someone you love is raped. In a series of tweets, he describes how he still feels guilty for not being able to protect her and how the incident wrecked their lives.

I've never heard another man discuss the impact a rape of a woman he loved had upon him. But I've lived it and feel compelled to share

— Angry Man (@AngryBlkManDC) August 16, 2016

July 10, 1998. The day before my birthday. I was out with the homies at an Orioles game. Hung out, got drunk, got high, had a ball.

— Angry Man (@AngryBlkManDC) August 16, 2016

My girlfriend at the time had been out planning a surprise b-day party for me. Of course I was not aware of this at the time.

— Angry Man (@AngryBlkManDC) August 16, 2016

Anyway, I got home sometime around 2am. I admit that I had been driving drunk and should've stayed where I was.

— Angry Man (@AngryBlkManDC) August 16, 2016

We lived together in Greenbelt at the time. I pulled up to the condo and saw a rack of police. I was drunk, so I got scared.

— Angry Man (@AngryBlkManDC) August 16, 2016

I didn't want to get out of the car and get hit with a DUI, so I sat there for about 30 mins. I then fell asleep.

— Angry Man (@AngryBlkManDC) August 16, 2016

I woke up around 4am to my girl's sister blowing up my cell phone. I answered and she was screaming "Where are you! ! "

— Angry Man (@AngryBlkManDC) August 16, 2016

I said "I'm right here, I'm right here" as I ran past the police cars still parked there, into the building and to my condo.

— Angry Man (@AngryBlkManDC) August 16, 2016

As I ran up the stairs I saw pieces of a dress that I had bought my girl strewn all over the steps. My heart was racing like shit.

— Angry Man (@AngryBlkManDC) August 16, 2016

Still very, very hard to digest. That incident wrecked our marriage. Sadly, there was no recovering from it.

— Angry Man (@AngryBlkManDC) August 16, 2016

Ok, got that off my chest. Again, thanks for listening.

— Angry Man (@AngryBlkManDC) August 16, 2016

Such first person accounts of how rape affects lives of survivors are extremely important, when victim shaming is being witnessed in rape cases and a devastating incident is discussed casually.

I often wonder if the men making foolish comments have actually been close to a woman who has been raped. Like, really understood the impact

— Angry Man (@AngryBlkManDC) August 16, 2016

(This story originally appeared on Deccan Chronicle)