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  Entertainment   In Other News  10 Apr 2018  In-law and out of love

In-law and out of love

THE ASIAN AGE. | VANDANA MOHANDAS
Published : Apr 10, 2018, 12:18 am IST
Updated : Apr 10, 2018, 12:18 am IST

Issues between Mother-in-law, daughter-in-law crop up even in the lives of celebrities.

A shot from the video where Queen Sofía and her daughter-in-law Queen Letizia were seen arguing in public.
 A shot from the video where Queen Sofía and her daughter-in-law Queen Letizia were seen arguing in public.

Spain’s Royal House was in for an embarrassment on Easter Sunday when the family was attending mass at Palma Cathedral in Mallorca, when an awkward drama unfolded as a tense Queen Sofía and her daughter-in-law Queen Letizia were seen arguing in public. Sofia seemed to be posing for a photograph with her granddaughters when a visibly uncomfortable Letizia walked in front of them, appearing to block the photo and the two exchanging words. The onlookers were also sporting a puzzled look as King Felipe attempted to talk it out.

The video was quick to go viral as people took sides. Usually, royal families are very careful about their public get-togethers, most of them well-orchestrated. And the question rises — shouldn’t they have been more careful about public etiquette?

Mumbai-based international etiquette consultant Suneeta Sodhi Kanga agrees, “As public figures, no matter what your personal differences are, you are obliged by your duty to the state and the rules of etiquette and protocol to portray the right image before the public. They should sort out their differences in private.”

This incident brings to the fore that  saas-bahu tiffs are common in celebrity households tooThis incident brings to the fore that saas-bahu tiffs are common in celebrity households too

Sadly, the video shows the child too shrugging off when the two women fight. Dr Prerna Kohli, a Gurgaon-based psychologist, says kids pick up from conflicts. “Children always take cues from their parents and grandparents. To teach the child about how to properly express emotions, they should show them how to handle situations in a mature manner. It shouldn’t be only limited to public spaces but also home, where it becomes important for the child.”

The royals are currently on damage control mode by making more public appearances — happily chatting and putting on a united front.

Interestingly, this incident brings to the fore the realisation that saas-bahu tiffs are not a middle class issue; it’s common in celebrity households too.

Dr Kohli feels to build a healthy relationship, there should be proper understanding between the two. “Both of them need to understand that it is not about creating dominance, but respect for each other. By knowing each other, respecting each other and their views, they are creating a special bond and avoiding most of the conflicts.”

Why is it that two women who love the same man can’t be friends? Dr Kohli explains, “The most important factor is sharing a common love as the son/husband becomes the object as both females vie for attention and resource. Most of the conflicts arise because unconsciously, the mother is not able to let the child away from her.”

Suneeta stresses, “One has to accept the in-laws for what they are. That is the only way peace can be maintained. Try not to wash your dirty linen in public. That’s what good manners dictate.”

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