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We talk makes healthier relationship

ANI
Published : Dec 29, 2018, 1:44 pm IST
Updated : Dec 29, 2018, 1:44 pm IST

Couples who do we-talk generates positivity in their relationship.

We-talk helps in resolving conflicts.
 We-talk helps in resolving conflicts.

Washington: Any healthy relationship starts with the word "we" and not "I."
Past research by UC Riverside psychologist Megan Robbins emphasized the power of first-person personal pronouns such as "we" and "us" in relationships.

"We-talk" is an indicator of interdependence, meaning partners affect one another's thoughts, feelings, and behaviours. This is a shift from self-oriented to relationship-oriented.

New research by her lab has greatly magnified the body of evidence asserting that the pronouns we use foretell good relationship outcomes.

Robbins and her team reviewed and analyzed 30 studies of nearly 5,300 participants to assert that couples who often say "we" and "us" have more successful relationships and are healthier and happier.

Lead author Alexander Karan said, "By examining all these studies together, they let us see the bigger picture. We-talk is an indicator of interdependence and general positivity in romantic relationships."

Interdependence is tied to relationship-healthy behaviours, such as being supportive in stressful times. "Interdependence Theory," first introduced in the 1950s, holds that interdependent romantic partners are more inclusive in how they think, feel, behave, and rely on each other for support over time.

For the study participants about half of whom were married Robbins' team looked at five measures: relationship outcomes (satisfaction, length of union), relationship behaviours (positive vs. negative interactions observed), mental health, physical health and health behaviours (how well participants take care of themselves).

The benefit was evident in all five categories, and virtually equal for both men and women.

That is to say, we-talk is good for young couples, and it's good for older couples. It's good when resolving a conflict, it's even good when the partner is not physically present. Most importantly, though we-talk is good when one uses it, it's even better when one's romantic partner uses it.

A question that remains unanswered, and is the subject of upcoming research for Robbins' team: Does we-talk make for happy couples, or do happy couples make for we-talk?

"It is likely both," Robbins said. "Hearing yourself or a partner say these words could shift individuals' ways of thinking to be more interdependent, which could lead to a healthier relationship."

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