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Resolve to be less spontaneous for better sex in 2017

THE ASIAN AGE
Published : Dec 29, 2016, 1:53 pm IST
Updated : Dec 29, 2016, 1:53 pm IST

Going for spontaneous desire to drive your sex life is great, but putting in more thought and effort is the way to move ahead.

Generating arousal is the way forward for long term relationships (Photo: Pixabay)
 Generating arousal is the way forward for long term relationships (Photo: Pixabay)

After a series of surprises, shocks and revelations, the year 2016 has come to an end with its fair share of gloomy times and pleasant moments. As the world gears up to enter 2017, new years resolutions related to fitness, career and personal life will be a hot topic for discussion this weekend.

Among many important aspects, sex life will be one thing people will be looking to upgrade in the coming year, and sex resolutions will constitute a major part of relationship goals, since bond between partners is largely affected by how they are in bed.

Although going by instinct and opting for the have to have you now kind of sex might be great in the initial period of a relationship, being spontaneous is not necessarily the best way to go forward since a hectic schedule and constant effort to maintain a work life balance with several priorities can put plans regarding sex on the back burner.

In such a situation, waiting for spontaneous desire to drive your sex life isn’t a great option and to put effort into feeling arousal and making your partner feel the same way consistently is a great way to move forward in a long term relationship.

This requires generating arousal since exhausting work life may take a toll on desire. For this the sexual excitation system (SES) and the sexual inhibition system (SIS) need to be in focus. The SES is a mechanism that looks for sexually appealing factors and sends signals to the brain accordingly, meanwhile the SIS does the opposite, looking for turn offs in the environment and giving you reasons to not have sex.

The trick is to get a dual procedure started, where you focus on stimulating the SES and ignoring everything that can possibly trigger the SIS. For this reason being less spontaneous and putting in more thought and effort into sex, which includes experimenting and getting adventurous, is the best sex resolution for the coming year.

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