Be kissed: There is a subtle difference between kissing and being kissed.
The land of Kamasutra, which had forgotten the art of kissing, has suddenly woken up to it thanks to our intrepid, ‘never-say-die’ Bollywood. The new mantra being ‘Kiss and tell’. With a slew of glossy smoochie films the nation is being reeducated.
Kamasutra elaborates on 27 types of kissing. It describes everything from the “kiss that kindles love” (when a woman kisses a man while he’s sleeping) to the “kiss that turns away” (when she kisses him while he’s engaged in business or they’re quarrelling). But forget about Kamasutra and make up something brand new for yourself.
Here are a few suggestions on how to be a great kisser:Soften up: Relaxed lips and facial muscles are soft and sensuous; kissing tense, tight lips is like smooching a lamp post.
Probe: More like a question than a touch.Yearn: The deep, wet French kiss.Brush your teeth boy: When asked what they didn’t like about kissing, many women mentioned bad breath. To be safe, brush your teeth before initiating kissing encounters.
Be kissed: There is a subtle difference between kissing and being kissed. And just because you’re a guy doesn’t mean you always have to be the lip-aggressor. Try being the kissee sometimes, not leading the kiss, just passively receiving the pleasure.
“Listen” to her kiss: Great kissers, like great lovers, are sensitive to how their partners are feeling and responsive to what they’re trying to communicate with their mouths.
Mogambo kiss: Sometimes it’s fun to play a fantasy role while you’re kissing. For instance, play the role of Antony and Cleopatra. Still better, pretend to be a Mogambo and be ruthless, sweeping her off her feet! Who knows you might end up fulfilling her long cherished fantasy.
The writer is a sexologist. Mail him at dr.narayana @deccanmail. com