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The lingerie effect

THE ASIAN AGE. | DR NARAYANA REDDY
Published : Jan 17, 2018, 12:19 am IST
Updated : Jan 17, 2018, 12:19 am IST

Lingerie is a term for fashionable and alluring women’s undergarments.

f she feels attractive in a lingerie, it can become a sure signal.
 f she feels attractive in a lingerie, it can become a sure signal.

“Doctor please counsel my husband. He has weird tastes,” pleaded Rama. “Enlighten me,” I responded. “My husband wants me to wear all kinds of lingerie. Such a waste of money. It also makes me feel cheap,” she responded.

Lingerie is a term for fashionable and alluring women’s undergarments. It is derived from the French word ‘Linge’ meaning ‘washables’ and from ‘lin’ meaning linen. Until 20th Century women used lingerie mainly for three purposes — to alter their shape, for hygiene and for modesty. In the 1960’s lingerie manufacturers such as Frederick’s began to glamorise lingerie through Hollywood movies. Thus, the idea of lingerie acquired a sex appeal.

When Men’s Health magazine asked “Have you discovered any sexual aids that enhance your sex life?” an overwhelming majority of men voted for lingerie. It appears that it is the American male’s favourite erotic aid. These men are not aroused by the garments themselves. They are turned on only by a woman who sports a lingerie. It fires a man’s imagination. Like one man said, “It is not so much what she wears to bed, but what she wears under her clothes.”

The only problem is that not all women share this enthusiasm. If she feels attractive in a lingerie, it can become a sure signal. On the other hand when she doesn’t wear it, that may be a signal too.

Lingerie has its uses. It resolves the Madonna complex in some men. The ‘good’ girl they married and the ‘mother’ to his children can become a ‘bad girl’ by wearing lingerie. Some women who nurture secret fantasies of being wild and adventurous in bed, use lingerie. However, women’s lingerie pleases him, not her. Men are aroused visually, women verbally. A survey found that lingerie is virtually a non-item in lesbian relationships. Note:

  • Remember sexiness is inherent.
  • Content is as important as packing.
  • Lingerie shouldn’t be the sole turn-on.

The writer is a sexologist. Mail him at dr.narayana@deccanmail.com

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