When it comes to matters of the heart, ‘do-overs’ are definitely allowed and it seems to be a season of rekindling romance for Hollywood stars.
When it comes to matters of the heart, ‘do-overs’ are definitely allowed and it seems to be a season of rekindling romance for Hollywood stars. Johnny McDaid and Courteney Cox broke up 18-months after they got engaged. But the couple recently sparked speculation about a patch-up when the duo stepped onto the red carpet together at an awards night, all smiles. When asked about making their reconciliation official, Johnny said, “Just look at us. I love her. I have always loved her.” Meanwhile, Hollywood heartthrob Idris Elba too strut down the red carpet with Naiyana Garth, three months after their split, suggesting that they were back together. Idris had walked out on his little boy’s mother and was spotted leaving a New York nightclub with model Naomi Campbell.
Closer home, life coach Milind Jadhav feels that people usually split from their other halves because they believe that the problem is with the partner. “People often change partners but life doesn’t change for them. Over a period of time, it dawns on them that changing partners is not the solution, the solution is to introspect. The ones who actually have the courage to admit this to themselves and their partners are the ones who make the effort of getting back into the relationship and rekindling the romance,” he says.
Your partnership may be redeemed, if you have the conviction to work towards it. Work on yourself more than the relationship and the mistakes you made previously, would vanish suggests life coach Chetna Mehrotra. “It is important to remember your mistakes and their consequences. Ideally, as a couple, you should be forgiving towards each other but some mistakes are beyond this. One should respect one’s partner and cut down on certain things or habits if they are creating havoc in the relationship. If your anger is the problem, sort it out; if you have a motor-mouth, which speaks without filtering, then be at ease and control your flow.”
Getting things into perspective and assessing the pros and cons always helps, feels life coach Veechi Shahi. “It’s a double-edged sword. If you are mature and committed to experience love with the same person again, you will be more understanding towards them. That is the ideal situation of course, or you may dig up old issues and end up blaming the partner for everything that went wrong the first time.”
While you are convinced that you want to give a second shot to your relationship, before moving back to your partner, it is necessary to do a background check again. “Find out if they have made some ‘new friends’ during their time away from you. Ensure that you are preparing yourself for things to come and the emotional upheaval it will bring along. Also, you should keep this in the back of your mind that this may fail and you might have to let it go,” says Chetna.
