Kangana Ranaut and Hrithik Roshan’s high voltage public spat catapulted into a bigger controversy last week, when Kangana’s former boyfriend Adhyayan Suman opened a can of worms in a tell-all intervie
Kangana Ranaut and Hrithik Roshan’s high voltage public spat catapulted into a bigger controversy last week, when Kangana’s former boyfriend Adhyayan Suman opened a can of worms in a tell-all interview with a publication. This, seven years after the two parted ways. Suman on his part delved into painful details of the tiff, while claiming that he no longer feels bitter towards his ex. He said he is able to unabashedly talk about it because he is an evolved person today—a far cry from the emotional wreck he was after the split.
Life coach Milind Jadhav doesn’t see it that way. It is one thing to harbour feelings of anger, bitterness and disappointment after a break-up but to publicly speak ill of your partner long after the relationship has ended is a sign of immaturity, not evolution, he says. “If you were suffering in a relationship, telling the whole world about it doesn’t reduce your suffering. In fact it can aggravate it because you think you’ve taken revenge by throwing mud on your partner, but then there’s a good chance you will provoke him/her to do something in retaliation,” he says.
Dwelling on a bad phase in life is only going to push you deeper into problems says life-coach Manoj Lekhi. “Certain things and people in one’s life are there for a certain period of time and after a point, one has to let go. Don’t do anything reckless that will make the process a bad memory for you or your partner. Sometimes it is not the person that is bad, but it is the situation,” he maintains.
Having the courage to realise that the love one harboured was only momentary helps. “Have the nerve to know that your love was not real. That your crazy ‘blind’ love has left you feeling cheated and used. Be real about the fact that your love story was unreal,” suggests life-coach Veechi Shahi. There is a potent energy within, when the heart is hurt and one must use it to do something constructive, instead of venting out the frustration, suggests wellness coach Priya Kumar.
“Instead of making a nasty scene on social media or in real life, do something big that your heart always wanted to do, but you didn’t pay heed to. Use your heartbreak as a launch pad for something new. Channelise your energies into things you always wanted to do. The sheer adrenaline rush of going away or doing something crazy will take your through,” she adds. This indulgence will transport you into another world of love and fervour — a big release from the passion gone wrong in your relationship.
