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The unexpected allies

THE ASIAN AGE. | NAMRATA SRIVASTAVA
Published : Oct 23, 2018, 12:03 am IST
Updated : Oct 23, 2018, 6:56 am IST

At a time when men are being publically called out for sexual harassment, they are finding supporters in the women in their lives.

When  Vikas was accused of misconduct on the sets of Queen by Kangana Ranaut, the only person to come to his defence was ex-wife Richa Dubey
 When Vikas was accused of misconduct on the sets of Queen by Kangana Ranaut, the only person to come to his defence was ex-wife Richa Dubey

It comes as no surprise that the sexual predators forced out of hiding by the #MeToo movement have all responded in a predictably defensive manner, with legal notices for defamation. But what surprises us is the number of women who are still standing in support of their husbands, fathers and brothers in the face of scores of serious accusations.

You’d think that a woman would best understand the plight of another, but that doesn’t seem to be the case when it comes to matters that hit close to home. We try to understand whether women truly believe that their better halves are incapable of sexual misconduct, or if choose to turn a blind eye.   

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When filmmaker Vikas Bahl was accused of misconduct on the sets of the film Queen by actress Kangana Ranaut, one of the first and only people to come to his defence was ex-wife Richa Dubey, who publically slammed Ranaut for misusing the #MeToo movement to malign the director.

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While some put it down to an act of loyalty, many others wonder why she would come out in support of a man that she is no longer even married to. As Kangana herself puts it, “Why do they leave their holier-than-thou husbands in the first place?”.

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Relationship expert Kavyal Sedani points out that the end of a relationship doesn’t necessarily mean the end of the emotional bond shared by a couple. “Just because two people part ways, it doesn’t mean the emotional bond between them ends. Though they may not be spouses or lovers anymore, it doesn’t mean that they don’t have feelings for one another. Maybe the man was doing these things outside the house, but he was really good at home.”

Like Richa, Alok Nath’s wife Ashu Singh also slammed writer Vinta Nanda when she shared a heart-breaking account of sexual assault and rape at the hands of the actor. Relationship expert Nisha Jamvwal says it’s sheer disbelief. “The relationship that a husband and wife share is very intense. So it’s difficult for a wife to accept that her husband can do something like this. And no matter what happens, many women choose to keep the marriage intact. Often, women who are in abusive marriages justify their husbands’ actions. That could be why they are just not willing to accept that their husbands are in the wrong,” she says.

In another incident, popular comedienne Mallika Dua came out in support of her father, veteran journalist Vinod Dua, when he was accused of sexual misconduct, sharing a picture of the two of them together with the caption, “Heroes aren’t made or broken overnight.” This struck many as odd given that Mallika had earlier slammed Twinkle Khanna for not taking a stand when her husband Akshay Kumar was accused of passing a sexist remark.

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According to relationship expert Richa Khepawat, though women may have high standards for the public at large, the game changes when family is involved. “You don’t want to accept that a family member, whom you are so close to, can do something so horrific. That’s why you see Farah Khan going all out and slamming Sajid Khan. The good thing is that she’s not defending him at least. Then you have the wives of Nana Patekar, Kailash Kher, and Bhushan Kumar, who are not anything at all,” she says, adding, “When it comes to ex-wives, they could also be looking for publicity. They know that the movement is gaining momentum, and they want to be a part of it and use it to their benefit.”

Tags: #metoo, sexual harassment, vikas bahl