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One sexual difficulty that is explosive involves one partner requesting sex and being repeatedly refused.
“Please, Jyothsna” pleaded Jaideep. “This is the third month since you refused to have sex with me. What’s your problem? Jyothsna retorted angrily, “You are my problem. You never bother to care for my needs. Have you bothered to take me for a vacation in the past two years? Why should I alone fulfill your needs?”
One sexual difficulty that is explosive involves one partner requesting sex and being repeatedly refused. Why do people deny pleasure to their partners? Some common reasons are one doesn’t like the other, one uses sex as a weapon to control the other, one has a lower sex drive than the other, one gets little pleasure from sexual interaction and one prefers intercourse at a time different from the other.
Whatever be the reasons, the effects will be damaging. The effects include feelings of inadequacy, frustration and anger on the part of the refused partner and leads to a deflated self-esteem, anxiety, depression, and fault finding. The overall effect will be unhappiness in nonsexual relationship, impaired communication, violence due to anger, and marital breakdown. These sexually warring couples will be poor role models for their kids. In most cases, the reason for refusal is rarely exclusively a sexual one. The cause is mostly due to relationship-based issues. Here are some pointers.
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